At 60 she learned to cycle. At 62 she became a long distance runner, running 50 km+ distances. And at 64, she took her first solo holiday to Kashmir.
Pushpa Bhatt, now 67, says she has a “good 25 years ahead” to go to places she’s never been. In the past, she’s travelled alone on work trips or with her daughter or in groups. But now the single mother who’s worked hard and invested wisely, has her priorities sorted—like running 72 km through the Khardung La mountain pass in Ladakh last year with plans to run again this September.
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For Bhatt, like many other women who travel solo, the value of travel became irresistible during the pandemic. Then, she spent two months by herself in Manali at a homestay; her daughter accompanied her for eight days before heading back to Mumbai. When restrictions eased, Bhatt packed her bags for a 10-day holiday to Kashmir, staying at Airbnbs, travelling by car to Pahalgam, where she hiked, Gulmarg and Sonmarg and having the time of her life. “Of course I ran everywhere I went in shorts. Nobody batted an eyelid.”
A post-pandemic desire to see the world after months of restricted or no travel, the growth of short-term home-stays, and the spurt of women-focused travel companies have all contributed to the rise of the solo woman traveller. Many opt for it also because of the flexibility it offers.
Solo domestic travel grew by 120% in the second quarter of 2022 compared to the same period in 2019, points out Garima Pandey, co-founder of Wandering Jane, a Bengaluru-based company that curates group and individual trips for women.
So strong is the trend towards solo travel globally that Airbnb, which found that over 50% of nights booked for long-term stays during the first quarter of 2022 were by solo travellers, launched a safety product aimed specifically for this traveller in June 2022.
Pandey, a former banker with engineering and MBA degrees, saw an opportunity in starting a company that would cater to women who are financially independent and feel no guilt about spending on themselves, whether it’s buying a car, a house or a holiday. These women are ready to travel alone, but have concerns, and rightly so, about safety. “So we said, what if we could provide women who travel solo with local experts who could take her around?” says Pandey.
Wandering Jane’s clients have included a visually challenged woman who wanted to visit Ooty and a woman whose company had given all employees time off to rest and recharge to avoid burnout.
Why travel solo?
For personal growth and to become self-sufficient, says chef Priyasha Saluja who has been travelling solo since she was 19. “Traveling solo has made me stronger as a person,” she says. “When you travel alone, you’re forced to make an effort to get to know other people, to get out of your bubble and interact with people from all over and from all walks of life.”
Starting with her first solo trip to Goa, Priyasha has spent six weeks backpacking in south India, been all over Kerala and returned to Goa several times.
Former journalist Priyali Sur’s first solo trip was to Vietnam at a time when, she says, she was going through a personal crisis and wanted time alone to think. “I loved it,” she says. What followed were solo trips within India—Dharamsala, Shillong and Pondicherry. Her experiences have so far all been good, she says.
In March this year, Deepika Verma who runs a luxury homestay in Uttarakhand took her first solo trip, a five-day trek, around Binsar where she stayed at homes in different villages. “Amazing,” is how she describes the experience. “I’ve lived in hostels all my life so I get along well with people.” The trip was organised through Village Ways, a company that invites you to “see real India through village eyes”.
The safety factor
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Safety is a chief concern of women who travel alone with 65% of female travellers worldwide worrying about personal safety, according to Statista.
With good reason. In April, a man in Jodhpur flashed his genitals to a Korean blogger while she had her camera out. She put up the video on social media, leading to the arrest of the man. Earlier, in March, videos of a Japanese tourist surrounded by a mob in Delhi wanting to play Holi went viral. And in December another South Korean blogger was harassed by two men on a motorbike in Mumbai.
Travel writer Shunali Khullar Shroff who travels alone for work and fun, has some common-sense do’s and don’ts. Do not venture out at night, unless it’s with a trusted local. A good taxi driver can make all the difference—but do not hire one without proper checks and references. Let your hotel staff know when you’re going out, where and when you expect to be back. And carrying a book can be useful if you are self-conscious about eating alone at a restaurant or want to fend off unwanted conversation.
In addition to not venturing out alone at night, Priyali adds: Choose hotels or homestays that have good reviews. Make sure it is located in a safe neighbourhood. Do not engage with people who are forcefully trying to engage with you (and this holds true for women as well as men). And though she’s never needed it, she does carry a pepper spray just in case.
Be mindful of the local culture, carry a list of local contacts, if you’re planning to hike, make sure you have an offline map in case you lose network coverage, carry basic medicines and first aid, says Pandey.
In a country where it’s still uncommon to see a woman eat alone at a restaurant, or even go to the movies on her own, the sight of a women travelling alone for fun is uncommon. “We’re still not a country where we let women be free,” says Priyasha. “But when you travel alone you see how people are good and will go out of their way to help you. It changes you as a person.”
36% of respondents in a survey by Feminism in India who had experienced online harassment took no action at all; 28% said they had intentionally reduced their online presence after suffering online abuse.
Source: Feminism in India, Online violence against women in India
Rest in power
Queen of rock‘n’roll. Grammy-winning music icon. Survivor of an abusive marriage. The woman who taught Mick Jagger to dance. The tributes won’t stop rolling for Tina Turner. “My beloved queen” said Beyonce. Raw, powerful, stoppable, eulogised Barack Obama. The New York Times waxed eloquent. Reuters had a timeline of her life.
But it was NASA that went where nobody else had gone before with a closeup of a cluster of tightly-packed stars seen by the Hubble telescope with a longish caption that began: “Simply the best”.
Source: WOMEN’S ART/TINA TURNER IN 1969, PIC BY J ROBINSON AND NASA (Right)
Seen and heard
“We thought, with all our medals, that we would be heard. But the reality is different.”
Bajrang Punia (Source: PTI)
Olympic medal-winning wrestler Bajrang Punia spoke to Hindustan Times after over a month of sitting in protest with fellow wrestlers, Sakshi Malik and Vinesh Phogat against Wrestling Federation of India boss Brij Bhushan Sharan Singh who has been accused of sexual harassment by seven women, including a minor.
The long(ish) read
You’d be forgiven for assuming that the romantic kiss as we know it originated in the land of the Kama Sutra. The oldest written evidence of the kiss has, so far, gone back 3,500 years to a Bronze Age manuscript from India. But on Thursday, an article in Science established humanity’s first recorded kiss, 4,500 years ago to ancient Mesopotamia. The written description of that moment can be found in cuneiform script, etched onto a clay tablet, some 500 years later.
Why the interest in an exchange of saliva? To understand one of the side-effects—not breathlessness and racing hearts—but the considerably more prosaic spread of disease.
Read more in the Smithsonian magazine here.
News you may have missed
A BJP leader in Uttarakhand has had to postpone his daughter’s wedding. Why? Because her choice of a bridegroom who happens to be Muslim has led to a furore online. Offline, men carrying banners of the Vishwa Hindu Parishad and Bajrang Dal carried out protests and burnt effigies in Pauri Garhwal on May 19.
Yashpal Benam who is the chairman of the Pauri Municipal Corporation and a former MLA made it clear that his daughter had his blessings. “Our children are free to marry whoever they want,” he said. Despite this, he’s had to postpone the nuptials. “This decision has been taken so that there is a happy and harmonious environment,” he said.
…And the good news
Of the 933 candidates who cleared the UPSC exams to become civil servants, 320, or 34 per cent—the highest ever—are women. Women also took the first four ranks and among the top 20, a dozen are women.
AROUND THE WORLD
In the US, a new movement to create “menopause-friendly workplaces” is catching on, reports New York Times. Taking a cue from Britain where over 50 organisations including HSBC and Unilever are certified as menopause-friendly, New York City mayor Eric Adams promised earlier this year to “change the stigma around menopause”. Read more here.
LGBTQI+ merch has offended Target store customers across the US to such an extent that the retailer has had to remove some clothing, books, music and home furnishing, part of its Pride Collection, apparently to avoid confrontation with customers and ensure employees’ safety and well-being, a company spokesperson said.
In Malaysia, where same-sex relationships are still illegal, 164 rainbow coloured Swatch watches were seized by authorities.
The ghost of Jeffrey Epstein, the disgraced financier who died of apparent suicide in jail after being convicted for sex trafficking minor girls, was, like Banquo’s ghost, sighted again. The Wall Street Journal reports that Microsoft cofounder Bill Gates had an affair with a Russian woman, Mila Antonova around 2010. Epstein knew about it and apparently sent a threatening email to Gates in 2017 after failing to get Gates to cough up funds to set up a charitable fund by Epstein.